This concept really resonated with me. If I were to be truly honest - I would have to say That most of my life I concentrated on BEING INTERESTING. Do you like me? Do you think I am pretty? Do you think I am smart enough, funny enough, fun enough? After much seeking and self awareness I have thankfully come to the place in my life where I am more INTERESTED in you than being concerned about if you find ME INTERESTING.
Concentrating on being interesting is what I call pride in reverse. When one is prideful - they are thinking about themselves in a good way. They walk into a room and expect everyone to look at them - admire them - approach them because of their greatness. This can have it's good and bad consequences. Pride in reverse is - "Everyone is thinking about me and what a loser I am." "Everyone is noticing how much weight I have gained." "Everyone feels sorry for me because I lost my job or my marriage fell apart."
Trying to be interesting is EXHAUSTING. We cannot control what others think of us. To go one step further, we will NEVER really know what someone is or isn't thinking - so why spend our precious time and energy on it?
If we exert our energies into finding out about others, learning new skills, reading up on someone that interests us - doesn't that in itself make us more interesting? We don't have to try so hard.
The concept is quite simple to grasp but sometimes not easy to implement.
FOR TODAY: I will work on being interested in others vs. being interesting to others.
Concentrating on being interesting is what I call pride in reverse. When one is prideful - they are thinking about themselves in a good way. They walk into a room and expect everyone to look at them - admire them - approach them because of their greatness. This can have it's good and bad consequences. Pride in reverse is - "Everyone is thinking about me and what a loser I am." "Everyone is noticing how much weight I have gained." "Everyone feels sorry for me because I lost my job or my marriage fell apart."
Trying to be interesting is EXHAUSTING. We cannot control what others think of us. To go one step further, we will NEVER really know what someone is or isn't thinking - so why spend our precious time and energy on it?
If we exert our energies into finding out about others, learning new skills, reading up on someone that interests us - doesn't that in itself make us more interesting? We don't have to try so hard.
The concept is quite simple to grasp but sometimes not easy to implement.
FOR TODAY: I will work on being interested in others vs. being interesting to others.
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